I Feel Seen: Late-diagnosed Autism and ADHD in adults

For many adults, a late diagnosis of autism or ADHD brings a surprising and emotional turning point. After years—sometimes decades—of feeling different, misunderstood, or overwhelmed, there's finally a name for the way your brain works. And with that name often comes both relief and grief.

At Tend, we want you to know: you are not broken. You have always been whole. And you are deeply worthy of support, understanding, and care—perhaps more now than ever before.

At our counselling practice, we want to support adults who are navigating this stage of discovery. For now, here are some gentle ways we can begin to make sense of it all.

Making Space for Mixed Emotions

A late diagnosis can bring up all kinds of feelings—relief, anger, sadness, even regret. Many people grieve the years spent feeling “different” without understanding why. Others feel validated and hopeful.

All of these emotions are valid. Therapy can offer a supportive space to process what’s coming up, and to start letting go of self-blame or shame.

Exploring Identity and Self-Acceptance

Being diagnosed as neurodivergent later in life can lead to big questions: “Who am I, really?” “What parts of me are ADHD or autism—and what’s just me?”

It’s okay not to have all the answers right away. This is a time to explore, reflect, and get to know yourself in a deeper, kinder way. You’re still you—just with more clarity about how your mind works.

Rebuilding After Burnout

Many late-diagnosed adults come to therapy feeling exhausted. Years of coping without support—especially while masking or pushing through sensory overload—can lead to burnout.

Counselling can help you learn to listen to your body, honor your energy levels, and build routines that actually work for you. Rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity.

Finding Community

One of the most healing parts of this journey is finding others who understand. Whether online or in person, connecting with neurodivergent peers can bring a deep sense of belonging.

You’re not alone. There’s a whole community out there—and we’re here to help you find it.

Moving Forward with Compassion

A late diagnosis can feel like the start of a new chapter. With the right support, it can be a turning point—toward greater self-understanding, acceptance, and ease.

If you’re navigating life after a diagnosis, we’re here to walk alongside you. You don’t have to do it alone.

Get in touch to see how we can support you here at Tend.

Finding yourself post-diagnosis can be a lonely time.

Looking Back with New Understanding

Many adults start to re-examine their past after a diagnosis. Struggles at school, difficulty with work or relationships—what once felt like personal failings may now be seen as signs of unmet needs.

In therapy, we can gently reframe those experiences. It’s not about rewriting your past, but about giving it new meaning through a lens of compassion and understanding.

Creating Practical Support

Understanding yourself is one thing—building a life that fits is another. We can help with tools for focus, managing emotions, navigating social situations, or asking for accommodations at work.

Rather than trying to “fix” anything, we focus on creating a life that supports your strengths and needs.